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There is neither a structure nor a texture to this blog. The subject matter can be anything and everything under the sky that I feel about at any given point that I happen to sit and blog rambling about everything in general. My thoughts and views are basically influenced by what I read, hear, gather, and ponder... if there is any copyright violation which I have not duly acknowledged, kindly let me know.

Ref: Chichkoo is what I lovingly call my daughter, kiddo my brother, amma and taatee my late maternal grandparents, and OA is the other adult in the family.

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Sep 30, 2006

Sparrows... where are they????

Being a nature person, I love waking up to the chirping sounds of birds and just enjoying the nature's music in the early hours... but of late with my living in the concrete jungle which is growing by the day and my erratic sleep patterns, I hardly get to enjoy the same. As I lie down listening to the early morning sounds of vehicles buzzing around and an occasional crow singing (yup, that is the only bird I get to listen other than the occasional cuckoo in the summertime) I wonder where those countless sparrows suddenly vanished...

Whenever I used to visit my grandparents' place, that was heaven for me... being a part of the nature, enjoying early morning sounds, locating various birds, specially sparrows and parrots, lots and lots of them around us.. it made me feel really good. Hunting down the nests, checking in on eggs and waiting eagerly for them to hatch was my favorite pass-time activity. I still remember the way I used to run crying to granny when a nest fell down due to wind and the eggs broke and it took days to get back to normal.

I hardly see a sparrow these days. Earlier, they seemed to be there everywhere, building nests in the roof, on the trees, in the burrows, anywhere and everywhere they found a place. In fact,I used to be scared to switch on the fan and got all worked up when I saw them flying around inside the house and ensured all the fans were off.


Photo Courtesy www.sialis.org

There is this tree near about a kilometer or so from my place which is the home for hundreds of sparrows, extremely busy with activity all the day and very calm at night. I go there every once in a while just to listen to them and see them in action but the other day I saw a huge complex coming up there and I just pray they do not cut it down to beautify the place as they always do... then my only chance to see or listen to my childhood friends would be gone :-((..

On a lighter vein...

Different Phases of a man:
After engagement: Superman
After Marriage: Gentleman
After 10 years: Watchman
After 20 years: Doberman

***

There is only one perfect child in the world and every mother has it.
There is only one perfect wife in the world and every neighbour has it.

***

Prospective husband: Do you have a book called 'Man, The Master of Women'?
Salesgirl: The fiction department is on the other side, sir.

***

A man who surrenders when he's WRONG, is HONEST.
A man who surrenders when he's NOT SURE, is WISE.
A man who surrenders when he's RIGHT, is a HUSBAND

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Life is a paradox-what u want u don't get (love), what u get, u don't enjoy (marriage), what u enjoy is not permanent (girlfriend), what is permanent Is boring (wife)

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What men want: A woman who can cook, a woman who earns good money, a woman who loves him & a system to make sure that those 3 women never meet each other!

Have a great weekend... :-))

Sep 26, 2006

P to P again..

Looking back at my previous posts I seem to be in a reflective mood :-) and thinking a lot... might be S impact :-)... well, it is one really nice phase I am going through, knowing a lot about myself, exploring feelings in me which were hitherto untouched, beginning to feel more grown up in this past year than in my whole life, having gone through each and every emotion and looking at life in close quarters... I sure have a more mature outlook...

An intimate relationship does not banish loneliness. Only when we are comfortable with who we are and can function independently in a healthy way, can we truly function within a relationship. Two halves do not make a whole when it comes to a healthy relationship: it takes two wholes. --Patricia Fry

How I wonder????

On a lighter note, I had this forward from a friend of mine which showed footwear which left me gasping and wondering how the hell can anyone walk with those... The forward had quite a lot of these but I liked the antique look and the flowery design better than the rest ;-).


aaaaaaaaaaaaaawwwww!!! why are they not soooo beautiful for flat footwear :-(((

I have been at the recieving end of the pointed heels once and felt as if my foot was punctured with the pencil-heel :-) and dread them ever since.. I get shivers even when I see others wear them.. hats off ladies who manage to cat-walk on those and still not have leg pain.


A thing of beauty, pain forever :-(

Sep 24, 2006

Points To Ponder...

When reviewing the comments for my previous post, Caps' comment got me thinking again... especially **// If we don't want to hurt others, we need to do what they say. This is Life.//**

It disturbed me a bit.. No matter how rosy I want to portray the picture, I still know deep down that it is very true. The toughest task in the universe is to satisfy a human being. No matter what we do or say, at some point in time we are bound to hurt others even without knowing we did. But again, it is up to us and us ALONE as to how much we let it impact us and get going.

As my thoughts float around, I remember a story or an article in RD, I cannot recall which edition though, that goes along the lines

You think you know everything, but you actually do not even know the difference between a problem and an inconvenience. If you break your neck, if you have nothing to eat, if you are going to die, or something as drastic as these, you can say you have a problem, rest all are inconveniences.. Life is inconvenient and it is lumpy. The solution is to separate the inconveniences from actual problems, and everything will seem simpler.

Sometimes, even the simplest words make a deep impact on our lives and carry a deep inner meaning. Ever since I read that, these words of wisdom have helped me a lot.. every time I am faced with a situation which I feel is beyond my control, am overwhelmed with a gamut of emotions, am backed against a dead-end situation, or am ready to do something really really dumb and stupid in a fit of rage and blind fury, I just about manage to pull myself up and give it a thought "problem or inconvenience?" and trust me, most of times, it is just an inconvenience and once I realize that, the moment passes away like a cloud and everything looks crystal clear. Self-restraint at that point in time is the key but there are moments when I let my emotions and feelings run haywire.. but again even that is a passing moment... got to control that too but again, if I had that much control, I would be one of those enlightened spirits, which I am obviously not...

To sum it up, it all boils down to test of reality. Life is lumpy.. a lump in the oatmeal, a lump in the throat, or a lump in the body system. Each one is different, those are all lumps but impact us in different ways and the key is to learn the difference.

Sep 21, 2006

Thought Provoking

Most of you must be familiar with Pravs World. If not, then you must try it out, it is an amazing site.. I am a subscriber to the same and love those precious wordings that I get every day in my mailbox... kind of reiterates all those good things one must have read somewhere or the other but not given much thought about... The quotes never fail to bring a smile to my face and make a lot of difference to my day...



This one is my favorite quotes and kind of defines my attitude... I hate living life for the society thinking what one might say, what one would think, etc., what the hell, as long as you know you are right, not harming any other human being or hurting another individual's feelings intentionally, everything that you do is good. We are gifted with one short life and that is too precious to ruin thinking about those who do not matter to us and for those we do not matter. I loved seeing this one in the Pravs' collection and could not resist sharing this with you guys..

Sep 20, 2006

Valuable Gifts...

When we were kids, mom used to make us read a lot of books, basically English books to improve our general knowledge as well as vocabulary and we were gifted with dictionaries and books every now and then. But, as a child and a stubborn one at that, I resisted everything that was forced on me and hated reading books, talking in English (yup!!! we were made to talk in English at home as kids.. mom was a telugu-medium educated person and had a tough time adjusting in her job which required English skills, so she wanted her kids to be perfect in English and not face the same problem at work or in school). I still loathe those days when I was forced to read "The Hindu" and its editorial columns aloud and give the gist. Competition Success Review (CSR), particularly the interviews of the toppers in civil services, etc., were our bedtime stories and God, how I hated reading them... but now I realize their importance in making us what we are today, both me and kiddo owe a lot to her persistence and strong will. Thank you mom, for being so strict in that aspect though I hated you at that time, I am eternally indebted to you for all those things.

Looking back, they had been our strong foundation and played a vital role in our character building... Even to this day, I love wisdom and it is my all-time favorite monthly second only to Reader's Digest... what a treasure trove they are...

I was cleaning up by book cupboard and chanced up on this beautiful paragraph listed under "Points To Ponder" in May 1994 RD edition... (yup!! we have a lot of those books even today).... and wanted to share with you all...

Most people get married believing a myth that marraige is a beautiful box full of all the things that they have longed for: companionship, sexual fulfilment, intimacy, friendship, etc. The truth is that marriage, at the start, is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no love in marriage; love is in people, and people put it in marraige. There is no romance in marriage; people have to infuse it into their marriages. A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising -- keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty.
J. Allan Petersen

This is so true. The key to a successful marraige is so simple. We all know it but when it is put together and expressed in an order, it makes an instant impact. Good luck guys!!! and wish me too... It is very apt when they say a good book is a man's best friend and I am thankful to mom for giving me loads of them.. Even today, she gifts me with books and actually she got one story book printed for me which my friends tease me about but I really loved... well, that is another story, I will preserve for another blog :-).

Touching...

Time and again I have been receiving these gut-wrenching photographs and stories of individuals with a claim like

"The only way they can help is this: If you send this email to other people AOL will track this email and count how many people get it. Every person that opens this email and sends it to at least 3 people will give us 32c... Please help us."

Dont really know how much truth is there in those claims and the stories in the mails that circulate do disturb me quite a lot...

One such thing that I got today is about the Zimbabwean parents' appeal... the poem written is sooo touching...

TO MY CHILD
Just for this morning, I am going to
smile when I see your face and laugh
when I feel like crying.
Just for this morning, I will let you
choose what you want to wear,
and smile and say how perfect it is.
Just for this morning, I am going to step
over the laundry and pick you up and take you to
the park to play.
Just for this morning, I will leave the
dishes in the sink, and let you teach me how to put
that puzzle of yours together.
Just for this afternoon, I will unplug
the telephone and keep the computer off, and sit with
you in the backyard and blow bubbles.
Just for this afternoon, I will not yell
once, not even a tiny grumble when you scream and
whine for the ice cream truck, and I will buy you one
if he comes by.
Just for this afternoon, I won't worry
about what you are going to be when you grow up, or
second guess every decision I have made where you are
concerned.
Just for this afternoon, I will let you
help me bake cookies, and I won't stand over you
trying to fix them.
Just for this afternoon, I will take us
to McDonald's and buy us both a Happy Meal so you can
have both toys.
Just for this evening, I will hold you in
my arms and tell you a story about how you were
born and how much I love you.
Just for this evening, I will let you
splash in the tub and not get angry.
Just for this evening, I will let you
stay up late while we sit on the porch and count all
the stars.
Just for this evening, I will snuggle
beside you for hours, and miss my favourite TV
shows.
Just for this evening when I run my
finger through your hair as you pray, I will simply be
grateful that God has given me the greatest gift ever
given.
I will think about the mothers and
fathers who are searching for their missing children, the
mothers and fathers who are visiting their children's
graves instead of their bedrooms. The mothers
and fathers who are in hospital rooms
watching their children suffer senselessly and screaming
inside that little body
And when I kiss you goodnight I will hold
you a little tighter, a little longer. It is then,
that I will thank God for you, and ask him for
nothing, except one more day.............

Sep 16, 2006

Messy Messy

Yo... that is what I am these days.... yours truly was down with viral fever for the past few days... the bug is making rounds in the city and it caught me too through Dad :-(.

I am at my best possible worst situation... with a nose drip that refuses to dry out and not able to sleep peacefully due to nose block, mouth breathing... waaaa.. my God, such a continuous flow, my nose hurts like hell... hope I had something like this one. It might seem funny to look at but that is truly the need of the hour :-((.



I was just lying down reviewing my patient behavior and I can say I am the worst one at that.. I just cant lie down quietly. I make lot of noise and bring down the whole house with me. No wonder my friends say, it is better my parents get sick and not me because they would anyway get sick with all my "sicky tantrums." And much to my horror, I realize it was true. When I went to visit the doctor, the one that I had been visiting for the past 20 years or so, yup he is a general physician and knows my body system through and through, I really felt bad because little kids who were a lot more sick than me were actually smiling and playing around or just sitting quitely while I was sulking all the way... berry berry berry bad (well that is how it sounds with my blocked nose)... I would win the worst patient in the Universe title hands down. I pity everyone around me totally and I promise myself that I wont be this bad next time, well again dont I do that everytime I get sick... but seriously I need to be better-behaved patient this time around.

Sep 13, 2006

Some Interesting Forwards

I keep getting a lot of forwards from my friends and colleagues.. few I laugh at, few I cry at, few I enjoy, few I like, and a few I like verry verry much and which I flag and store in the mailbox.

Got a couple of them today and wanted to share with my blogger friends :-).

Certain simple techniques to cope with our increasingly demanding work-styles.

Try not to use the intercom. Rather, walk to your colleagues and discuss matters.
Stretches your back, and leg muscles. Helps build rapport with colleagues. Relaxes your eyes and ears. Relaxes your neck.

Drink lots of water / liquids.
Will require you to walk to the rest room regularly. Good stress buster.

Small meals at regular intervals
Keeps away acidity. Makes you walk to the cafeteria thus providing exercise.

Laughter is the best medicine
Hard works is good, but let us not lose our sense of humour. Learn to laugh for everything. Stress buster, good for face muscles and eyes. Sharpens thinking capabilities. Mainly, laughter is contagious
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20, 20, 20, 20 rule - Every 20 minutes, look at an object at least 20 meters away for at least 20 seconds. After that blink your eyes 20 times before you resume on the computer
Good for eyes, neck, back. You get to chose what object you want to look at!
Keep your feet firmly planted on the ground
Good for back, neck and leg muscles. Keeps Ego in check!

Use an external mouse ( Laptop users). Rest you elbow where ever possible
Good for neck, back, arms, shoulders and wrist.

Ensure that you chair is adjusted to optimum height and the back-rest is adjusted to normal (rather than recline)
Good for back and neck

Use speaker-phones for long calls (calls for more than 20 minutes)
Less stressful and enables more movement of the body.

Get it off you . Talk to someone about anything that bothers you.
All of us have stress. It is how we manage it. Make friends in office to whom you can open your heart out. Honest discussions very often provide answers to difficult situations.

All of us spend 8 - 12 hours in office and we need to learn to enjoy these hours. Happy working.... & have a great day!...


HOW TO STAY YOUNG
1. Throw out nonessential numbers.
This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay them.
2. Keep only cheerful friends.
The grouches pull you down. (keep this In mind if you are one of thosegrouches;)
3. Keep learning.
Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain get idle."An idle mind is the devil's workshop."And the devil's name is Alzheim er's!
4. Enjoy the simple things.
5. Laugh often, long and loud.
Laugh until you gasp for breath. And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spend lots and Lots oftime with HIM/HER.
6. The tears happen.
Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person who is with us our entirelife, is ourselves. LIVE while you are alive.
7. Surround yourself with what you love.
Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health.
If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips.
Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county, to a foreign country,but NOT to where the guilt is.
10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.

Sep 10, 2006

Hairy woes :-((

One thing that really gives me nightmares these days is, believe it or not, my hair. Something I never thought I would be ruing about until about four years ago :-((.. How I wish I can get back to those good old days.. earlier I used to have those good hair days and bad hair days.. Now.. only lose hair days :-((((...

Worse still, whenever I meet any old acquaintances or friends of mine, the question...... "aaaaaawww dear!! whatz with your hair" spirals me back into my seemingly neverending depressive thoughts related to already-damaged so-called "presentable looks..." aaargghhh... I never thought I would be conscious about the way I looked, least of all my hair... Amma was very right when she used to say "you will realize the value only when you lose it!" No matter what I do, the N number of visits to the dermatologist and the regular physician, popping up multivitamins and iron pills, being on a specified diet of lots of greens and fruit, applying oil, conditioning with henna and head massages... nothing, nothing really seems to help. Each time I brush my hair, I wonder what is left on the head when I see everything in the comb... boooooooooooooooohoooooooooooooooo...

Phase 1 (Four Years Ago)..
Never used to bother much, no attention, no care..
Phase 2 (Three Years Ago)
Notice thinning, but not really bothered..
Phase 3 (Two Years Ago)
Going for a shorter haircut so that it does not look too thin.
Phase 4 (One Year Ago)
Hairfall at an alarming rate, meet the doc, follow all the tips given by everyone and anyone, hoping what goes comes around :-(.
Current Phase (Today, at this very moment)
Forget about whatz gone, praying that at least I retain what is left....

Caps' tips on hair care... got to check out yet again.. and as T-DNA would say I really would need a mega-miracle to retain whatever is left.. boohooo.. Doc says dont pay a lot of attention to it, stress and depression do this to you at times, but how can I NOT pay attention.. 'cos half my depression is due to the mounting medical bills!!!!

Sep 8, 2006

Oh boy!! She Just Rufuses to Age :-)!!

Asha Bhonsle turns 72 today, and oh boy, she refuses to age... To me, she seems to grow younger by the day... what a journey her life had been. I am an ardent fan of hers.. not restricted by one genre of music, she, according to me, is an all rounder. Give her any song and she will just give it a new life... One gifted life she has and the cheer and happiness she spreads around through her music is amazing.. Hats off Ashaji...

Helen and Asha combination is the most electrifying one and even today I just cant take my eyes enjoying the sheer magic on screen by both these legends..

... and of course that "Mera Kuch Saaman... " from Ijaazat is a gem... Be it any emotions, it seems to slip out soo easily and beautifully from her throat... As I sit down to write, I cant exactly choose my favorite pick... every single song of hers is a delight.. I have grown up listening to her songs and it is amazing that that gifted voice still gives me the exact same pleasure it did when I was too young even to understand those Hindi lyrics.. very true, music knows no language or age barriers, it just leaves us with immense pleasure and satisfaction.

Blending from one generation to another with perfection and moulding herself to the contemperory trends in the world of music, she is truly an inspiration for someone like me who resists change with all my might. She never ceases to surprise me with all the energy and enthusiasm at this age. She is amazing...

Thanks Ashaji for entertaining us for so long and may God bless you...

The quality of a person's life is in direct proportion to his commitment to excellence, regardless of his chosen field of endeavour.

Sep 5, 2006

Here and There..

One thing that really caught my attention in the newspaper today is "Outsourcing Surrogacy" or renting the womb, more and more foreign couples turning to India for surrogate mothers. It was meant to be a casual headline but something stuck me real hard. The term outsourcing in this context makes it all so economic and business-like without any human feelings attached to it, it makes it sound as though it were some service sector and who knows maybe our government would even come up with something like "baby tax" with the moolah involved in it. But actually how hard must it be for a woman to bear the child in the womb for 9 full months and without any attachment surrender the infant to someone else just for money. Will the mother be able to ever stay free from the guilt of letting the kid go.. is the satisfaction that the infant will have a better life enough for giving up someone made of our flesh and blood??? Looking from the childless couples' viewpoint, finding a surrogate mother would be the best, but my thoughts just stuck to the term outsourcing and the economic aspect that the paper was listing out, did not delve into their perspective on this...

The world is abuzz with Steve Irwin's sudden demise with a stingray barb.. got to know this through Keshi's post, read in papers, watched it on TV... and that set me thinking what makes this guy click with millions of viewers across the globe.. My grandparents who dont actually know much of English other than simple sentences used to watch his programs with rapt attention and they used to admire him and this in itself speaks a lot. This guy in his trademark khakis, who dared to face the wrath a lot of people for having put his one-month old son while baiting a croc with food putting off their fears stating he wanted to make his kids "croc-savvy", is something special. Being an animal lover that he is, I always wondered why is he called a croc-hunter when he actually loved them so much, isnt hunter meant to be a totally opposite term??? The viewers loved him, hated him, criticized him, but could not ignore him. Now that I know the pain of losing a loved one, I just hope his family that he left behind copes it all with courage...

Sep 3, 2006

It just seems like the other day...

Yesterday, there was this Ganesh Nimajjana near our place. Usually, just before the immersion, the idol is moved from its location and taken around the place in a procession with kids and youngsters dancing to that tapori teen-maar beats and lighting fire crackers, sprinkling colors and all that stuff... It always used to be a great fun watching such events and I always wished I could go out and join them too...

But yesterday, it brought back all my memories with Amma, how we used to go outside the house and give coconut and flowers to the lord and get the prasaadam, how I used to be soooooo happy seeing soo much color and music. She used to pray every year "protect us all and see us through this year lord and we will bring you back the next year and pray you with utmost devotion." I could hear those words ringing in my ears and I could still feel me holding her hand and pointing to her something or the other that excited me and she just being happy at my child-like outbursts :-(( and pointing to something else. She actually used to enjoy all that I did and enjoyed, making me feel wanted and good :-(((...

They say time is the best healer and memories fade away with time but everything seems so fresh, her touch, her voice, her face, everything is so fresh... can I enjoy things the same way without her ever again???

For Evil Eyes on LO