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Dec 30, 2007

Shoba De's Tips on Happiness :)

I saw this article by Shoba De in a social networking website, shared by an online community friend. I really liked the way it has been put across, so simple and easy and so contemporary. Nothing out of ordinary, everything put well together and showing a well sorted-out thought process. Must say, I agree with all of them and it is nice see them in words, things that we know but are just too lazy to put together and follow!!

1. Be selfish: If you dont give your own self priority, if you dont look after your health, appearance and well being, you cant make anyone around you happy either. Being constructively selfish is very different from being mean and self centred.

2. learn to let go: learn from it, but discard the negative emotion generated by the memory. it serves zero purpose

3. teach yourself to trust: agreed the world isnt the most amazing place, but it isnt all that terrible either. these days suspicion rules. but the minute you surrender your doubts and stop being cynical, you realize just how many wonderful ppl there are out there, who may actually risk their own lives to save yours

4. express gratitude; articulate your feelings when some does you a good turn.

5. slow down: there is nothing that compelling, nothing that cant be kept on hold

6. touch and go: really, thats all, one tiny touch before you get busy.

7. listen with your heart; cacophony has replaced conversation.

8. confide: betrayal can be devastating, but its still better to seek advice by sharing those troubling problems then living with a constant feeling of being choked.

9. shut up: keep quiet. not every argument needs a resolution

10: have a heart: this is about compassion, yes but on a more selfish level, it is about following your heart too.. if your heart isnt in what you do walk away. you cannot succeed in either a career or a relationship that your arent embracing- whole heartedly. imagine being stuck in a job or marriage that only gives your grief? what for, as the cliche goes, life is way to short to throw it away on activiites that are devoid of joy. the minute you opt for something or someone you love, you will succeed. the heart has its reasons-- as pascal wrote years ago, listen to it.

11. stop being a control freak:being reasonably organised is one thing, being obsessive about it another. so strive to find the right balance

12. count: to control your temper, to or before making any important decision

13. compliment ppl: why stinge on praise, who doesnt like to be appreciated walk up to the person who has earned your respect and say so , it costs nothing

14. music: it is the balm of the soul. it alone has the ability to calm, soothe, heal, restore and musc asks for nothing in return.

15. cry your eyes out: go on its such a great feeling theres nothing as destressing as a really good cry

16. extend help; if you find yourself in a situtation where your intervention whould lead to a positive outcome, go ahead and extend your hand. dont walk away when you see someone in distress

17. grow a garden; taking care of plants makes you feel responsible for life itself madness; agreed moolah helps, we all need money, but do we need to chase it at the cost of all else, health, family, fun, the only thing that can save us reconnecting with one another and our past

19. eat, drink and be merry; yep, but be sure you do so munus guilt, food- whether its comfort food or a gourmet meal-is the provider of elemenatary but immense pleasure. to remain indifferent to the everyday act of eating is to deny yourself a great source of happiness

20. learn to lose; it really ok to not win every single time. and its also ok to feel terrible when you lose. losing with grace is an art in itself. wins some, lose some, that s how it goes, and always will

21. sleep; catch your eight hours of sleep

22: dance: dancing for the love of dancing frees you from self consciousness, even if you think you lack the grace and rhythm to move to the music, who cares, you arent going to be judged, and you arent being watched, it s not naach baliye and you should tell yourself to just let go, whilr, twirl, jum and swirl.

23 embrace life: as the cliche goes, life is way too short to begin with, why fight when you can love, when you embrace life unconditionally, you value each and every moment. and when each moment becomes precious enought, you derive the maximum enjoyment out of it.

24. daan: charity does not begin and end with writing a fat cheque and sitting back smugly thinking youve done soemthing commendable. giving in the true sense goes beyond donating money it involves giving of yourself, sharing time and emotions, interests and ideas

25: just do it: impossible is nothing.. go just do it..dont waver to do things you want to get them done.

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