There are too many things that being a mommy taught me, but to put down the first five that come to my mind as of now at this point...
Never Ever Neglect Yourself and Put the Kids needs in front of yours 24x7 every single time.
Well, I was a paranoid mother the first year of life of the kid, anything and everything used to scare the hell out of me. It is no good trying to be a supermom, a mother is a human after all. Take care of one's own health and try get back to shape within no time because once you postpone it the endless layers of fat never seem to really go, take time for self, work out, get fit. The kid learns from you, absorb everything from you, being tired and sick all the time is not going to help either of you, so take care of yourself and the kid is automatically taken care of by you. Stretch marks and pot belly maybe the badges of motherhood I would proudly want to display but that is not an excuse for being overweight.
Being a supermom is a myth..
Take things one at a time, do not feel shy to take help, do not feel bad for wanting to take rest, do not feel bad for wanting to run away... do not go on guilty trip each time the kid cries or falls. It is but natural. There is no way I can kill my own baby by sheer negligence, so relax..
Protective and possessive to the extremes in not good for the kid. Advices are plenty, follow your heart.
When I used to see a few mothers and kids who behave they are the only mighty ones and their fruits of the womb are the best, others are lesser mortals and I had that fear that maybe I will turn out to be one too. I love my kid more than anything but I am thankful I do not fall into that trap. It is in fact possible to be nonjudgmental about kids. It is possible to keep your mouth shut and not end up giving lectures on how to bring up a kid to another mother. It is the key not to fret on little things or get furious about what other people have to say about your parenting, just give a smile and do not let them affect you and even if they do affect you, don't let the other person know they did..phew!!
I am a lot more tougher than I actually thought I was
I always knew I was strong but that I could stretch beyond unthinkable at some point is something new. If I could go through the most vulnerable phase with a tiny life in my hands, I can, I guess tough out anything in this world if I get my will together.
Kids have amazing sensors.. do not underestimate
It is not right to say that these are kids, they do not understand anything, through experience I have realized that they have amazing sensors, they are more emotionally tuned to handle things than we realize they are and they are sponges absorbing everything they come in contact with, good, bad, ugly.. so do not be paranoid and be the way you want them to be...
Most importantly being a mother made me realize that I most essentially want and love just to be ME. Mom to my kid, sure, but mommyhood is just a role I am playing, the core me is essentially just the same, the need to be just me has increased if anything.
I would tag
and tweak this tag a little bit for fathers and want Chandu to do it... and any one of the readers without a blog, would love the comment section filled with yours... Sandhya, Radha.. knock knock listening??