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Jul 10, 2012

So, I had been...

doing a lot of things these past few days.  Got the kid admitted to a school in the next village after what I thought was much thought-after decision and fell flat.  The kid did not like her school, too much strength for pre-kg class around 60, no fans (well, I still curse myself for not looking up or having that doubt), they got one the moment I decided to pull her out but the damage was done.  Even if there were fans fitted, there was almost no power round-the-clock thanks to the power and water crisis going on!!!

The primary concern however was food intake, the boxes both lunch and snack came uneaten and the worst part was the kid used to cry and vomit her breakfast.. sick feeling seeing the kid the way she became in just a matter of week, clingy, cranky.. singing I do not want to go to school every single day..  I should have listened to my gut feeling, got her out the first day, I realized it was a mistake, which was the moment I got her to the class... NO...!! FOR ONCE, I decide to stick to my mother's expert opinion and curse myself for having done so.  My precious child suffered like anything for 2 full weeks before I decide to put an end to it... totally entirely completely my fault.. I  should have listened to her.

Now, we found another school, kind of a mixed playschool where she gets to play, individual attention with just 20 kids, no forced learning, eating on her own, reciting happily what she learns, playing with other children and most essentially looking forward to go to school.. THANK GOD!!! the ordeal is over!

I consider myself a most nonfussy parent, not forcing her to learn, just play and learn and enjoy every moment but just be happy with whatever she does but obviously I expect too much from the kid.. being happy.  I expect her to be happy but I do not see the signs, expect her to be happy despite of my mistakes, expect her to be happy not learning when she was actually bored about not learning anything new.  She wants to learn and I SHOULD provide her what she needs to be happy rather than just expect her to be happy and blame her for not being so when there is absolutely no pressure.. I had been forcing her to be happy :(((.. I am not sure if I put it right but words are failing me.

Mom knows the best is true to an extent but kids actually know what is best for them in their own way, just look at the signs and make them comfortable and happiness would just follow..

Sorry little one to put you through this.. forgive mamma!!!!  Look at my ego, I am even scared to admit that to you because deep down I have a feeling you would take it as my weakness and play me to suit your needs... I need to go a loooooooooong way in parenting...!!

3 comments:

Sandhya said...

Good that you found a better school for her. And as you said, Thank God, the ordeal is over. Yeah, though mothers know the best, we should not ignore when children try to tell us something. I feel that we should respect children and not brush aside their opinions and suggestions. Hang in there! you are doing well.

Sandhya said...

Good that you found a better school for her. And as you said, Thank God, the ordeal is over. Yeah, though mothers know the best, we should not ignore when children try to tell us something. I feel that we should respect children and not brush aside their opinions and suggestions. Hang in there! you are doing well.

Sireesha said...

Parenting is an ever learning process I guess. And also, there is no fool-proof ideal. A parent grows as the child grows. Take it easy on yourself. Continuously seeking feedback and correcting ourselves is the best we can do. Sreya is lucky to have such a caring, committed, and sensible parent.
Good job and good luck!

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